The Thigh Gap
Alright ladies listen up! I'm going to discuss the elusive thigh gap. For those of you who don't know what a thigh gap is let me quickly explain it. A thigh gap is a space between one's thighs so that they don't touch. Almost every woman out there at some point in her life has thought or said, "I wish I had a thigh gap." It's okay if you have said this because I did too. In fact, I spent 9 years of my life trying to achieve this "thigh gap." I did achieve it but I also starved myself and was EXTREMELY unhealthy. I risked my life to get this sought-after thigh gap and guess what, I still wasn't happy with my body and my appearance. I was still embarrassed and uncomfortable in my own skin. I weighed 90 pounds and was a double zero; I worked so hard to be that 1% that had a thigh gap but I was still miserable. I have always been athletic and I have always been on the taller side, but during my adolescence I was bigger than a lot of my friends (not saying I was fat) and it really got to me. I felt embarrassed when I couldn't fit into the same jeans as my 5 foot 100 pound friends. I felt like I should and I felt like if I didn't I wasn't good enough so I took matters into my own hands.
I hated feeling my thighs touch and I hated wearing shorts and bikinis because I didn't want people to see my legs. I have always had a weird "obsession" with my legs and how they look. I was constantly looking in the mirror at them, constantly measuring them to make sure they weren't getting bigger. Whenever I wore shorts my every thought was consumed with how they looked. I also compared my thighs to other peoples; random people, famous people, family, friends, it didn't matter if I knew them personally or if I just saw them on the street. I complained about my legs and how much I despised them and how they weren't toned enough or skinny enough. I used to rip out pictures from magazines of models and actresses and make collages of how I wanted my legs to look. I thought that if I could achieve the thigh gap then I would be happy, sexy, confident but in reality I was still unhappy, sick, and ashamed of my legs. Yeah, it felt good to be able to buy double zero jeans but that feeling only lasted for a few minutes and then reality came crashing back in. I now realize that it doesn't matter whether your thighs touch or don't, what matters is that YOU love your body! Being confident and healthy is far more appealing than having a thigh gap.
I am the most muscular that I have ever been in my life, my thighs touch, but I'm happy and healthy. I still kind of obsess about my legs but now it's how much weight I can squat with these babies, how toned I can get these wheels. My perspective has changed completely so I'm hoping that by writing this I can help change at least ONE person's perspective. I never want someone to loath their body as much as I did because NO ONE deserves that! I've asked multiple people, male and female, what they think about thigh gaps. Most of the women said things like, "I wish I had one", "I would be so happy", "I would love my body more and be more confident" and the males said things like, "A what gap?" , "what's a thigh gap." I came across this picture a few days ago and thought "this would be PERFECT" for my blog! So you tell me, which one do you think is more attractive? Which one looks healthier? Who do you think is happier?
The only three types of people that have a thigh gap are: 1. anorexics 2. anorexic models or 3. people who naturally have wide set hips. It’s pretty much impossible to have a thigh gap and still be healthy. So the next time you go to tear yourself apart because you don’t have Gisele Bundchen’s legs I want you to instead think about all the AMAZING things your legs do for you. They allow you to go for walks on the beach, sprint across a green field during a sporting event, cross the finish line at your first road race, chase after your kids while playing tag, climb that mountain you’ve always wanted to, bounce on the trampoline with your friends. Your legs allow you to get from point A to point B and MUCH MUCH MORE. We need to learn to appreciate all the wonderful things our bodies do for us instead of tearing ourselves apart, Much easier said than done, trust me I know, but little changes will lead to big ones. Before you can change your body you have to change your mind! Love you for you and always lift on!
I hated feeling my thighs touch and I hated wearing shorts and bikinis because I didn't want people to see my legs. I have always had a weird "obsession" with my legs and how they look. I was constantly looking in the mirror at them, constantly measuring them to make sure they weren't getting bigger. Whenever I wore shorts my every thought was consumed with how they looked. I also compared my thighs to other peoples; random people, famous people, family, friends, it didn't matter if I knew them personally or if I just saw them on the street. I complained about my legs and how much I despised them and how they weren't toned enough or skinny enough. I used to rip out pictures from magazines of models and actresses and make collages of how I wanted my legs to look. I thought that if I could achieve the thigh gap then I would be happy, sexy, confident but in reality I was still unhappy, sick, and ashamed of my legs. Yeah, it felt good to be able to buy double zero jeans but that feeling only lasted for a few minutes and then reality came crashing back in. I now realize that it doesn't matter whether your thighs touch or don't, what matters is that YOU love your body! Being confident and healthy is far more appealing than having a thigh gap.
I am the most muscular that I have ever been in my life, my thighs touch, but I'm happy and healthy. I still kind of obsess about my legs but now it's how much weight I can squat with these babies, how toned I can get these wheels. My perspective has changed completely so I'm hoping that by writing this I can help change at least ONE person's perspective. I never want someone to loath their body as much as I did because NO ONE deserves that! I've asked multiple people, male and female, what they think about thigh gaps. Most of the women said things like, "I wish I had one", "I would be so happy", "I would love my body more and be more confident" and the males said things like, "A what gap?" , "what's a thigh gap." I came across this picture a few days ago and thought "this would be PERFECT" for my blog! So you tell me, which one do you think is more attractive? Which one looks healthier? Who do you think is happier?
The only three types of people that have a thigh gap are: 1. anorexics 2. anorexic models or 3. people who naturally have wide set hips. It’s pretty much impossible to have a thigh gap and still be healthy. So the next time you go to tear yourself apart because you don’t have Gisele Bundchen’s legs I want you to instead think about all the AMAZING things your legs do for you. They allow you to go for walks on the beach, sprint across a green field during a sporting event, cross the finish line at your first road race, chase after your kids while playing tag, climb that mountain you’ve always wanted to, bounce on the trampoline with your friends. Your legs allow you to get from point A to point B and MUCH MUCH MORE. We need to learn to appreciate all the wonderful things our bodies do for us instead of tearing ourselves apart, Much easier said than done, trust me I know, but little changes will lead to big ones. Before you can change your body you have to change your mind! Love you for you and always lift on!
The picture on the right is sexier anyway. I like curves and things to squeeze not some frail bag of bones! Tori you have done amazing things with your body. You are a beautiful woman. Best of luck to you!
ReplyDeleteGisele is naturally thin. She has been made fun of all her life for being tall and skinny. She was called mosquito,bird,etc. She is one of the healthiest models there is, so dont imply she is anorexic and unhappy. She is naturally thin and not like the lifeless runway models who you can tell are forcing to be that way. Anorexia shows up in the face more so than the body at many times. Their eyes,hair,skin and low energy in their faces. Gisele has always been glowing. Bad example to use her.
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